Again, when we speak of love we are not referring to romantic love but love which is totally pure without any agendas connected to it. When your heart is open and accepting even to that which you do not necessarily like that is love that we speak of. Each day each of you has multiple opportunities to learn this lesson, especially when you are feeling angry or hurt or disappointed. This is the time when you must open your heart to love and to begin to peel away what is weighing on you. Begin to see if there is a place within yourself that is contracted and unwilling to love yourself or the object of agitation. How can that be cleaned and cleared so that you do not have to be weighed down by this agitation? How can you open your heart? Each day when you face these challenges–and you will–those are the times when you are doing your true work and that is how you will learn to love.

In Light and Love, Kandel (The Communicators)

Questions from Readers

Jeanine from Florida: I took a major jump and completely changed my career. Now, sometimes I doubt this is the right path for me even though all signs pointed this way. Can you shed any light on this change?The Communicators: Hello, dear one. We welcome you. The question you ask is acamouflage for another deeper question. That which you are questioning is not whether you are moving in the right direction but rather are you competent enough to do what is required of you. Jeanine, you are very aware that you have needed to make a big shift in your life. You were getting to feel quite stagnant and unfulfilled. The shift you have made is a very positive step. Jeanine, at present, you have not as yet found a place within yourself to feel comfortable and secure in this new arena. You doubt yourself and you are not used to feeling that way because you have felt so secure in what you were doing in the past. It will take a bit more time for you to fully take in and get comfortable in this new arena. But, once you do, you will excel quite rapidly. We can assure you that you are more than competent to do all that is required of you. By putting more attention on the positive aspects of what you are encountering, you can assist yourself in shifting your focus away from that which feels uncomfortable.

Susan from NYC: I’ve had a clenched jaw for some years. Can it be related to my childhood and coming from a very controlling family? Is this something I’m using to have control?

The Communicators: Hello, dear one. Compassion, compassion, compassion. That is what is needed for you to move beyond that which took place in yester years. Yes, there was a child that was treated harshly for wanting to step out of the mold and to carve her own path. The fears of your elders perpetuated their behavior. They felt so insecure in their own skin that they insisted that everyone around them follow a safe and narrow road. Yes, Susan all of that did exist. However, you are no longer that child. You are now a grown woman who can make her own choices and decisions. You no longer have to rebel or ask for permission. You are very much the designer of your life and how you lead it. As a child, you were limited and did not like being put into a small box. Early on you learned to use your “will” to protect yourself. Susan, the locked jaw has been your way of taking control of what you see as unmanageable. You want to be “in charge of you,” and this is your ultimate act of defiance for not fitting into the mold. You still believe what you were told as a child. Even though you rebelled and innately knew the truth–that each individual, is indeed, an individual and has to carve out their own distinct path—you still bought into the idea that in order for you to be loved you had to be like other people. You are constantly seeking acceptance and judging yourself when you feel you have not filled the bill. The more you try to be accepted the greater the attention is focused outside of yourself so you often feel disconnected from your own source of power. Your way of working with that has been to lapse into a fantasy world that feels much safer and lovelier. Your clenched jaw is a defense against the world and having to “sell out.” That which is shifting within you is the realization that you do have a place in the world and that it is okay to be Susan –-the original that she is. Acceptance and compassion, must come from within you Susan, for until you allow that to happen you will continue to find yourself in situations in which you feel judged by other people and you will continue to clench your jaw as a reaction to those feelings. Susan, you have made great headways and yet, there is still a place within you that is using your “will” against yourself as a kind of punishment for not being as others are. Susan, you are a blessed and very loving and talented being that has so much to give. There is no reason for you to be imprisoned by this “idea or perception.”

Jason from Portland: Is there any information you can pass on to me about my mother. She currently had back surgery and is in a lot more pain than would typically be expected. Your insight is appreciated!
The Communicators: Hello, dear one. We welcome you and we can assure you that your mother is in good hands. The excessive pain that is taking place at this time is being brought on by different sources. First, there was far more involved in this procedure than was initially expected. Second, this particular surgery has brought up a good deal of anxiety within your mother. She has been living her life in such a way that — how can we best explain it –like someone who holds it together, sometimes far too tightly. All her life she has tended to push down her feelings — it is the way that she found it best to function. This has been the source of her back problems. The back is where she has held all her fears and many of her repressed feelings. By repairing the physical body, a door has been opened, releasing all those repressed feelings. This is what is causing her to experience great pain. This operation has brought to focus all that she has not wanted to look at all her life. An effective source of healing for you mother, at this time, would be light energy work, such as Reiki or some form of that. This would be a gentle way of assisting your mother in releasing that which she has held on to for so long. Your mother has a strong constitution and a strong desire to heal, this will help her to mend physically. However, she may not want to face the many feelings she has repressed and this resistance will cause her to struggle far more in this process than she needs to.

For you, Jason, it is imperative that you do not follow in your family lineage. Begin to express the feelings that you also tend to push down. Each day you must begin to clear out what has accumulated in the course of the day. If you don’t want to speak it out, then write it out, – it will be very helpful in reducing your stress level.